Have you heard of Hilary Boyd? Well, I bought The Times on Wednesday last week and now I have. I don’t usually buy The Times but it had something on the front cover about Granny sex so I had to buy it and find out.
Hilary Boyd is 63 and a granny and has been married for 40 odd years. She has written a book called Thursdays in the Park, which wasn’t doing much in terms of sales but then Amazon started selling the e-book version at a discount price of 20p and as of Wednesday, 14th, it had sold 100,000 copies and foreign rights to France and Germany.
Hilary Boyd believes, as do I, that life doesn’t end at 60, and, neither does having a sexual identity and a sex life: being loved physically; wanted and desired. When you hit 60 life can become confusing, as I’ve written in this blog already.
Thursdays in the Park is a romance between two grandparents who meet in the park while babysitting their grandchildren. How cool is that! Get it to find out more.
I love what she says in the interview in The Times. She’s not afraid to tell it like it is. I quote “A woman hits 60 and everyone and everything is telling her she’s past it. Advertisers have started describing her as “the mature woman”, friends have started letting themselves go, putting on weight and wearing fleeces. And special needs shoes. And elastic-waisted trousers! …They stop dying their hair, the women are effectively neutering themselves. And their husbands are happy because they’re not going to run off – looking like that.”
There is a confusion of identity at 60 but 60 is not what it used to be. There is a pull at 60, a comfortable slot to fit into, which does involve cheap fleeces, clothes which are comfortable and practical and which hide a lot, whether you want them to or not, and plenty of examples of this nature to follow.
But there are also plenty of 60 somethings who do still colour their hair, wear make-up and refuse to go quietly into an invisible old age. As she says, we are the baby-boomers and a “stroppy bunch.” Grannies are not what they were a generation ago, even 10 years ago. We still have a life, including a sex life and we’re not about to give up on any of it.
Hilary Boyd again, “The problem is that we don’t yet know how to be old, but we’re learning. We’re learning fast.”
Three cheers for Hilary Boyd. And three cheers for the rest of us for whom she speaks and writes.